Updated: Sep 18, 2019
Just 15 days into knowing each other only through chats and phone calls, we knew we had a connection. He never judged me because of my disability, infact he told me that it was the main reason why he swiped right because he wanted to know more about the “partially blind” part in my bio. We used to chat on whatsapp almost all day. One fine day, the conversation went like this:
He: “So,where would you like to go on our first date?”
Happy me: “It's your city, pick a place, why do I have to do all the work?”
He: “Okay. There’s this great place where you get the most amazing apple pies, do you like apple pie?”
Me: “I love sweets. But, I create a lot of mess while eating, especially if i’m using a spoon or a fork so if you're not going to be embarrassed by that then yeah, take me out”
He: “Okaay…. How messy do you get usually?”
Confused me: “Well usually I don't, but if I accidentally do get messy it's usually a minor disaster like breaking something or dropping something on the floor.”
He: “Yea as long as you don't pour the cup of coffee on me i’m okay with anything .”
Me: “Haha, don't you think the possibility of THAT happening is much higher than me creating an accidental mess?”
He: “Well.. Yea yea I agree, but I will be on my best behavior, I promise.”
Me: “Alright, let me know the date, time and place.”
He. “Date you decide and I’ll come to pick you up”
Me: (smiling) “Alright☺”
March 18th 2016, 15:35, Mumbai
I get out of my building. I call him,
Me: “Where are you?”
He: “Right outside your building “
I look to my right and there he is, sitting on his black activa with a helmet on his head and a big smile on his face. I instantly know it's him. I walk towards him slowly, trying my hardest not to fall.
Him: “Hi, ready to go?”
Me: “Yes, I hope you didn't have any trouble finding the building “
Him: “No, actually I come to the church thats right outside your society.”
Me: “Wow, thats a nice co-incidence”
We talk about random stuff until we reach the destination.
He parks the bike.
Me: “Can I hold your hand?
He: (In a fake surprised tone) Wow, that was quick”
I blush and playfully punch him on his arm and hold his hand.
Me: “Low depth perception you silly, if I fall you have to pay my hospital bills.”
He laughs and holds my hand. We start walking towards the cafe. We enter the cafe and it smells like heaven in there! I think to myself “Good choice of place, he has good taste”
We sit and the waiter quickly hands me the menu card, I start going through it seriously.
He: “I’m ordering the apple pie, you?”
Me: “I would like to try the Austrian chocolate mudpie, sounds interesting “
We order and I nervously look at him, trying to focus on his features in the cafe’s dim lighting. I notice he’s staring right into my eyes. I nervously look away and ask him not to stare at me. We talk and laugh about silly jokes that he keeps cracking at my expense.
After some time our pies are in front of us, as soon as I dig the fork in my mudpie he notices my struggle.
He: (grabbing his fork and cutting a piece out from the pie) Here, let me help you with that, Open your mouth.
He feeds me a BIG piece, half of it is in my mouth, half on the table, on my phone!
I tell him I will eat on my own. He agrees. Before I could even think of going for another piece, the lights go out!
He: “Well, there's no option left but for me to feed you, isn't it?”
Me: “Well okay but smaller bites please!”
He: “I’m sorry, I’ve never done this before.”
I could tell he wasn't lying by the amount of effort he was putting while feeding every piece. After every bite he asked me, “Is this one okay”, “should I take even smaller pieces?” He was so cute and adorable!
After a few bites the whole situation was so natural for us, I kept talking and he kept alternating between eating and feeding me. The lights came on after we finished eating our pies.
We laughed, we talked about serious topics, I had the best first date! I’m mostly very confident in whatever I do with my partial vision, but there are some things that still make me nervous and shake my confidence a little like eating out with new people or going to a new place on my own where i’m not aware of the surroundings. I’m comfortable with my friends and family because they know that if i’m messy while i’m eating that's because I can't see very clearly and they completely ignore it, but if i’m with someone new, I feel a little humiliated and a bit embarrassed if i drop something or spill something. But with him it was comfortable, it was like routine. I was swept away by his innocence(more like child like behavior) and simplicity. He didn't pretend to be something that he’s not and was super sweet to me. Feeding me the most delicious chocolate mudpie on our first date was the most romantic thing that someone has ever done for me!
Miss. Shweta Bhalerao
From Maharashtra, India
Asst. Professor - Law
University of Pune